Good practices for changing mindspost by Nikola · 2022-04-07T15:20:11.617Z · EA · GW · 5 comments
Adopt the alliance mindset Avoid typical mind fallacy Shed your identity Don’t dunk on people Assume that people are better and smarter None 5 comments
[highly inspired by Akash and Kuhan’s talk on ambitious thinking in longtermist community building, informed by my experience with one-on-ones]
Most of us are trying to make the world better. Most of us disagree on how to do this, which means most of us are wrong. Most of us can change our opinions to become closer to the truth and get better at making the world better.
Here are some rules of thumb that I’m most certain about being helpful. These are to be added on top of a foundation of careful listening to your interlocutor, gently trying to identify cruxes, rephrasing your interlocutor’s claims to see if you got them right, etc.
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Adopt the alliance mindset
It’s important to keep in mind that we’re all on the same team, but some of us are confused about specific things about how the world works. Getting closer to the truth is a collaborative effort where both of you are trying to help each other get what both of you want.
Avoid typical mind fallacy
Bayesian thinkers tend to be better at changing their minds when presented with new information, but most people are not very Bayesian in their thinking. Changing one’s mind about fundamental things is not only an intellectual activity, but also emotional and social [EA · GW]. Thinking that “people should change their minds based on facts” is not going to help much.
Shed your identity
Tying into the above point, it is good to avoid vocabulary that mixes identity with beliefs and competencies.
- Instead of “I am an AI safety person”, say “I’m trying to do good through AI safety” or “I think AI safety is the most important problem”
- Instead of “I’m not a CS person”, say “I don’t seem to be good at CS-y stuff”
This is good on an individual scale but also good because it encourages others to use similar vocabulary and get better at changing their minds.
Don’t dunk on people
Most people don’t like being humiliated, and changing one’s mind during an argument is for some people a form of humiliation. If you sense that someone is very inertial about ceding a specific point, back off.
There are two failure modes here:
- Your interlocutor grudgingly cedes that they are wrong, faces humiliation, and never wants to talk to you again
- Your interlocutor chooses to die on the wrong hill, bites a stupid bullet, faces humiliation, and never wants to talk to you again
If these things are likely to happen, then back off and let people change their minds in privacy, where there is much less humiliation. Maybe send them a blog post or article about the thing you talked about. The seed is planted, you just need to let it grow. If they want to keep talking, they’ll probably contact you, or say yes to you asking if they want to get a coffee/meal sometime.
Related: leave people a line of retreat [LW · GW], that is, point out to them that it’s not the end of the world if they’re wrong (well, ignoring that it might actually be the end of the world pretty soon if we’re right about x-risk).
Assume that people are better and smarter
When forming beliefs about others’ beliefs and motivations, it is best to err on the side of behaving as if they are smarter and more benevolent than your best guess. Overshooting these leads to flattery at worst, but undershooting leads to insulting people, which you do not want to do under any circumstance. Do not assume that people are unintelligent or malevolent, assume that there is a misunderstanding.
Keep in mind that I’m only making a claim about implementing this in specific conversations. You should not be eager to trust people with your bank account information.
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