Get In The Van

post by ThomasW (ThomasWoodside) · 2022-01-21T16:49:12.990Z · EA · GW · 16 comments

Contents

  Why did I get in the van?
  What does this mean for you?
  What can group organizers do?
  Why people don’t (and sometimes shouldn’t) get in the van
  GITV moments aren’t everything
  Getting in the plane
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Thanks to Jessica McCurdy [EA · GW], Buck Shlegeris [EA · GW], Sofya Lebedeva [EA · GW], Matt Burtell, Julia Wise [EA · GW], Aris Richardson [EA · GW], and Eui Young Kim for feedback on this post.

People commonly ask me how I got involved with EA. My answer is somewhat unusual.

I got in a van.[1]

It was fall 2019, relatively early in my first year of undergrad at Yale. I was subscribed to the Yale EA newsletter (as I was for dozens of extracurriculars), but I wasn’t involved in the group. One day something on the newsletter piqued my interest: “People with backgrounds from several effective altruism organizations, such as MIRI and Open Phil, are coming to Yale!” They promised to offer “career advice” among other things.

What was this “MIRI”? What was “Open Phil”? Who were “Buck Shlegeris” and “Asya Bergal”? I had no idea. But I did know that I wanted to make an impact with my career, and EA was associated with that in my head. I did know I was interested in AI, and this “MIRI” thing seemed related. And I did know I wanted a summer internship.

For whatever reason, I ended up talking to Buck, who apparently worked for MIRI. Here is how I described my conversation to a friend, memorialized in my text messages (do not take this as an accurate portrayal of Buck’s beliefs):

This was weird. Here was a guy telling me about how we were going to be turned into paperclips [? · GW] if we weren’t careful. That he worked for a whole organization devoted to preventing us from being turned into paperclips (this is not an accurate portrayal of MIRI’s goals).

But then, they said they had to leave. They were sorry to have been so late, but they had to go on the next part of their road trip.

“Does anyone want to come with us to New York City?”

Two students volunteered themselves pretty quickly. They were both graduate students and already somewhat involved with Yale EA. I didn’t know either of them. In fairness, I had no idea who any of these people were.

I thought for a few minutes, and I decided: I’m going to get in their van. And so I did.

At one point in the van, I asked Buck: “so, where are we going?” He laughed and seemed to think it was very funny that I had gotten in a van without even knowing where it was going.

“A Slate Star Codex meetup.”

I was puzzled at the strange name. “What’s that?”

We arrived as the sun was setting. The meetup was in a park, and there were many people milling around. Apparently, “Scott Alexander himself” was at the meetup. I think somebody pointed him out to me. It’s not like I remember though, because I had no idea who Scott Alexander was. 

I could describe in more detail the conversations I had at the meetup, but that isn't the point of this piece. It is important to note, though, that I didn't think that everyone there was great, and I even came away with slightly negative impressions of some of them. I never became a regular Slate Star Codex reader.

On the train back, I talked to the two Yale students who came with me. One of them later became a very good friend of mine. I remember finding him just interesting, and wanting to spend more time talking to him. He was eager to talk to me, and share his knowledge and thoughts, and he made me feel included. If he hadn’t gone, I’m not sure the trip would have translated into me getting more involved with Yale EA, because I wouldn’t have felt as connected to anyone in it. But he clearly made an effort to get to know me, and that made all the difference in my involvement with EA.

All because I got in the van.

Why did I get in the van?

You may be wondering why I got in a van with strangers to go to an event, when I didn’t even know what the event was. If any one of the reasons below hadn’t been true, I wouldn’t have gotten in the van:

The bottom line is that it was kind of surprising that I got in the van, even to myself. Me getting in the van hinged on five mostly unrelated causes, without which the trajectory of my life could conceivably be quite different (I think I probably still would have been involved with EA though).

What does this mean for you?

It means that you should get in the van.

Obviously, this doesn't always mean that you should get in a literal van. The following, in some circumstances, might be examples of “get in the van moments” (GITV moments):

Most GITV moments are relatively long in duration: they require you to make a commitment that you can’t easily reverse (though that commitment doesn’t need to be very long or involved). When an unusual choice is before you, you should consider whether it is a GITV moment. Though GITV moments are all very different, they tend to share some characteristics:

A GITV moment is unusual. Almost by definition, you will not have another chance. There might be another GITV moment someday, but it won’t be the same as the last, and will probably be important for a completely different reason.

A GITV moment is hard. You probably have some reservations about getting in the van. It might be the kind of thing where your emotional self needs to be in exactly the right place. Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t get in the van. It’s difficult.

A GITV moment is pivotal. Sometimes you don’t know what the pivotal events in your life will be. With a GITV moment, you can be pretty sure. It is usually quite obvious that getting in the van will lead to some major change in your life, even if you don’t know what it is yet.

A GITV moment is uncertain. You probably have no idea where you’re going, other than it’s somewhere far away from where you’ve gone before. You won’t know until you’re there.

If you can, get in the van.

What can group organizers do?

You should get your members to get in vans. This means three things.

First, you need to find vans for them to get in. Organize retreats, crazy trips, and get your members to go to EA conferences. Invite guest speakers who have literal vans. Regular EA programming is nothing compared to getting in vans.

Second, you need to show them the value of getting in vans. Tell them about vans you’ve gotten in, and how important that was for you. Heck, show them this post.

Third, you need to help them feel comfortable getting in the van, if comfort is warranted. More on this later.

Here are some examples of trips that I helped to plan and hoped might be GITV moments for some people:

Anecdotally, it seems like many newer group members got more involved after going to these events. They were all very memorable: a shared experience that you can bond over later (like I still do, to some extent, with Buck). Note that many events intended to be GITV moments are useful for group cohesion even if they are not, in fact, GITV moments for anyone, so the cost to them may be low. Also note that GITV moments do not need to be spontaneous: you may want to aim for a mixture of spontaneous and planned events.

When your group members get in vans, people will one day get in their vans. A few weeks ago, I was driving my car in Berkeley, shuttling people back from an event I had attended. A load of people got into my car. Buck was one of them. Vans come full circle.

Yes. Yes it was.

Why people don’t (and sometimes shouldn’t) get in the van

People often don’t embrace GITV moments, and I think that the biggest reason for this is discomfort.

Discomfort can be healthy. People often have discomfort with novel experiences, and sometimes this is a very useful signal. In some cases, a sense of unease can prevent people from getting swindled or harmed, and it can be important not to ignore that.

Some people also don’t want to seek out unfamiliar ideas, and I think that this likely means that it is not the right time for a GITV moment. That’s fine. Part of the aims of the EA movement is to make people more comfortable with these ideas, but it doesn’t have to be done as part of a GITV moment.

There are some sources of discomfort which group organizers can help alleviate. Many people naturally feel comfortable with people who seem like them, especially when asked to do things like getting into a van. I was (and am) a white techy man from Silicon Valley, which made the situation seem more familiar to me. For most others, many of whom might become just as engaged as I am some day, such a group of people would not have seemed familiar in the slightest. In some cases, this could prevent people from engaging at all.

GITV moments are one of the reasons why I think it’s extremely important to make people in your group feel comfortable in the group at large. Part of this means being welcoming [EA · GW]. Part of this means making an effort to make genuine friendships with new group members, and build their trust. And part of this is having group members who new people can relate to, not just in the way they think, but also in the way that they are perceived by strangers, which is often heavily related to external characteristics. In practice, this often means that it can be positive to have people of varying racial, economic, and gender backgrounds. This is especially important for GITV moments, because people of certain identity groups might be wary of engaging or traveling alone with strangers of other identity groups (particularly homogeneous groups of strangers). 

Lastly, as mentioned above, there are sources of discomfort which should prevent people from getting in the van. If people feel unsafe or are worried about being emotionally or physically harmed, this might well be for a very good reason. Even if you don’t understand why somebody is hesitant to embark on this kind of new experience, you should think twice before trying to persuade them that their fears are unfounded. Their intuitions could turn out to be correct, or they could have information you don’t have.

GITV moments aren’t everything

GITV moments are exciting, and can be extremely important for people. They are also great stories. But they are not everything. In my view, the vast majority of value in the lives of most people won’t come from GITV moments. Many things are slower, more methodical, and build into something important (I did not have any GITV moments when joining the Yale EA board, for instance). Not everyone in every group is going to have one, and most people won’t get involved through one. I think it’s extremely important to offer GITV moments, but that shouldn’t come at the expense of other, more careful programming.

Getting in the plane

I emailed Buck later that week, thanking him for the trip and also asking him for a summer internship (did I mention I wanted a summer internship?). He didn’t offer me one, but he did ask me to come to a workshop he was running the next week. He said he would pay for me to get on a plane. But my parents were coming for parents weekend, and I had a midterm scheduled.

So I didn’t get on the plane.

What would have happened if I had?
 

  1. ^

    Technically, it was a minivan. But people have called it a van enough that I’ve kept it.

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comment by james.lucassen · 2022-01-22T02:47:41.588Z · EA(p) · GW(p)

If this were fiction that would make Buck your manic-pixie-dream-girl and I find that hilarious.

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comment by gwern · 2022-03-19T21:44:08.134Z · EA(p) · GW(p)

I humbly request a photo of Buck et al in a van with the caption "Get in loser we're going saving".

comment by Miranda_Zhang (starmz12345@gmail.com) · 2022-01-21T18:10:54.853Z · EA(p) · GW(p)

Really love this, Thomas, because

  1. Your storytelling is so compelling, at least to a fellow university student
  2. This idea makes sense: disruptions to one's everyday routine are novel and so, perhaps, more likely to make one open-minded (e.g., to ~weird~ ideas like 'maybe we should work on making sure we don't die because of something that doesn't exist yet')
    1. I am not sure if this is an actual phenomenon or if I'm just combining what I know about mindfulness, habit/inertia, & the way human brains adapt to familiar things
  3. I see such synergy with Sydney Von Arx's concept of scene-setting. Like, maybe we could forward-chain to a scene by thinking about historically successful GITV moments for your group, or back-chain from a desired 'scene' to plan GITV moments.
  4. This reiterates why welcomingness & demographic representation are important. They're important for socials, generally, but GITV moments probably require even more comfort/welcomingness than other socials.
  5. This helps me better understand why UChicago House culture is so compelling and, most importantly, how UChicago EA can compete.

Your caveat about prioritizing programming is completely on-point, so I want to caveat the below by saying - this is a vision of what groups should aspire to, but perhaps only after they've solidified core non-social programming like fellowships.

Anecdote about house culture as examples of non-EA GITV:

UChicago  brands itself as being ~quirky~ which partly manifests through 'house culture.' As a freshman, I really wanted the university experience, and to me that meant seeking the epitome of house culture. I was lucky enough to be placed into the Dodd-Mead house, which has many house traditions.

I also don't consider myself someone who 'does things spontaneously' but somehow, being part of a group of ~20 freshmen who were open to learning about + trying these traditions got me to do some pretty wacky things, like

  • Wake up at 5 AM for a straight week, so that we could play games and do exercise together before going to class/the gym at 8 AM. 
    • I also woke OTHER people up at 5 AM for a week
    • I also volunteered to make breakfast for one of those days, which meant waking up even earlier(!)
  • Refuse to call an official UChicago event by its official name ('Kuvia'), and instead call it something different ('Kangeiko'). We are the only House that does this, but we correct everybody else because obviously, we are right.
  • Worship an obelisk.
  • Carry around a squirty toy to try and fake-assassinate others, while avoiding being fake-assassinated
  • Espouse the superiority of our dining table. Dodd-Mead is the only House that has a round, not rectangular, table in the Dining Hall. We regularly try to bring non-House friends to this table because it is obviously the best table shape for discussion.
    • We have also petitioned the Dining department to protect our dining table. Preserving our round table is incredibly important to us, even though it is space-inefficient, difficult to maintain, and overall annoying to the Dining department.

Other GITV /Scene-setting similarities:

  • These traditions feel unique because they're idiosyncratic, but there are enough of them that you can feel like you can always partake in another or partake next year
    • Yet, each time you participate, it feels slightly different too!
  • Traditions evolve and change along with the community, just like scenes might
  • It's both incredibly welcoming and incredibly self-selecting
    • Some people are really weirded out by it and won't participate. This always makes more engaged people sad, because it's fun and we want other people to also have fun!
    • But sometimes people will participate later, or only participate in certain traditions, and nobody is ever excluded because they've never participated.
  • Discussions veer between really deep and really inane, and both styles feel equally fun. Being serious and being lighthearted are both successful modes in Dodd-Mead!
  • General buy-in -> Positive reinforcement: once you've enjoyed some of these traditions, it's way easier to keep engaging in more of them. It feels like everything will be awesome, as long as you're with this group of people. I think  I started getting more involved in EA when I started feeling like this, because I met actual real EAs and thought they were really cool. 

Dodd-Mead historically has experienced great retention, from people staying in the House all four years (very uncommon) to people moving off-campus together, to people getting married!

Also, I can't believe I had to write this comment to recall but, Dodd-Mead was also considered'cult-y.' So maybe I shouldn't be so concerned about EA being considered 'cult-y' : )

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comment by Sarah H · 2022-01-22T01:43:03.474Z · EA(p) · GW(p)

Fellow UChicago alum here, also from a house with hardcore house culture (save Breckinridge!) and I think your comparison to house culture is useful in understanding some of the caveats of GITV moments. Being part of an intense, somewhat insular group with strong traditions and a strong sense of itself can be absolutely exhilarating and foster strong cohesion, as you say, but it also can be alienating to those who are more on the edges. Put differently, I absolutely think we should encourage GITV moments, but that spirit can go too far. Once you start saying "the people who don't get in the van aren't real members of [GROUP]," that starts pushing some people away. 

With EA as with house culture, I think it's important to find a balance between cultivating passionate intensity and acknowledging that folks have other things going on and can't always commit 100%; important to cultivate GITV moments but also acknowledge and build systems and traditions that acknowledge that you can't always get in the van--and, furthermore, that often folks with more privilege can more easily get in the van. If you have a shift at work or have to care for your kid, you can't go on spontaneous trips in the same way that a person with fewer obligations might. 

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comment by ThomasW (ThomasWoodside) · 2022-01-22T14:30:57.874Z · EA(p) · GW(p)

I think this comment is really good and that it better articulates one idea I was trying to get at with the original post. Thank you!

comment by ThomasW (ThomasWoodside) · 2022-01-21T18:18:23.183Z · EA(p) · GW(p)

Glad you enjoyed the post!

This idea makes sense: disruptions to one's everyday routine are novel and so, perhaps, more likely to make one open-minded (e.g., to ~weird~ ideas like 'maybe we should work on making sure we don't die because of something that doesn't exist yet')

This definitely seems true to me, and is representative of my experience.

Anecdote about house culture as examples of non-EA GITV:

These examples are great, and I think illustrate the point really well! Common sets of unusual/quirky activities/traditions are often great for group bonding.

comment by HowieL · 2022-01-26T13:29:56.414Z · EA(p) · GW(p)

I couldn't resist pointing out that Get in the Van is also the title of Henry Rollins' diaries from his time touring as the singer of Black Flag, the seminal hardcore punk band.

Feels particularly appropriate given the story of how Rollins joined the band:

When Black Flag returned to the East Coast in 1981, Rollins [just a fan at the time] attended as many of their concerts as he could. At an impromptu show in a New York bar, Black Flag's vocalist Dez Cadena allowed Rollins to sing "Clocked In", a song Rollins had asked the band to play in light of the fact that he had to drive back to Washington, D.C. to begin work.[20]

Unbeknownst to Rollins, Cadena wanted to switch to guitar, and the band was looking for a new vocalist.[20] The band was impressed with Rollins's singing and stage demeanor, and the next day, after a semi-formal audition at Tu Casa Studio in New York City, they asked him to become their permanent vocalist.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Henry_Rollins#Black_Flag

Despite some doubts, he accepted, due in part to Ian MacKaye's encouragement. Rollins acted as roadie for the remainder of the tour while learning Black Flag's songs during sound checks and encores, while Cadena crafted guitar parts that meshed with Ginn's.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Black_Flag_(band)#Rollins_era_(1981%E2%80%931985)

After joining Black Flag in 1981, Rollins quit his job at Häagen-Dazs, sold his car, and moved to Los Angeles. Upon arriving in Los Angeles, Rollins got the Black Flag logo tattooed on his left biceps[18] and also on the back of his neck, chose the stage name of Rollins, a surname he and MacKaye had used as teenagers.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Henry_Rollins#Black_Flag

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comment by Gavin (technicalities) · 2022-03-18T17:53:33.614Z · EA(p) · GW(p)

Came here to post this

comment by PabloAMC · 2022-01-21T23:45:40.839Z · EA(p) · GW(p)

I think the most important GITV moments are often connected to people, and I think we as a community should put the effort into understanding new people. In my case, I think I had not one but two different moments, and different people connected to those:

  1. The first one happened in early 2018 in Oxford. I was lucky enough to have gone there for a master's degree, and mid-way through it, I found out about one talk by Catherine Hollander, from Givewell, on making the best out of your money. I had always been interested in how to end poverty, so quite appealing. There, I met Darius Meissner, they invited me for a dinner after the event, and I think he really took the time to understand me well. In particular, I starkly remember one conversation where he argued that eating animals might not be good, and me saying that I cared more about the environmental reasons. This is something that in retrospect feels weird, almost as if the only reason I said that was because I heard other people believe so. But it also highlights something important: changing the (moral) views of people takes time, even when they make a lot of sense. The good thing was that such a simple conversation made me slip towards becoming a vegetarian, and I remember buying much less meat already there. 2018 was also a year that EAs were putting a lot of focus on longtermism. Indeed, after this first event, Huw from EA Oxford invited me to talk a bit and gave me a couple of books to read. Unfortunately, the talk, focussed mostly on longtermism did not resonate well with me. I was (1) confused about the fuzzy arguments on the "astronomical" importance of the long-term future, (2) unsure if that was even actionable, it's not like going vegetarian or donating money. They were arguing for a career change, which felt probably too much. Later on, I attended a couple of career planning events, which I liked, but I never really bought in so much into longtermism. I think I somewhat took it into account when choosing my PhD, but it was far from being the main consideration. The second career retreat especially was a bit offputting. Too much crazy conversation around paperclips and the sort. I remember being in a conversation where someone was arguing that having fewer children was better because it would free you more time to do greater amounts of good. I honestly think this is the kind of weird stuff that is not really super helpful. Maybe intellectually interesting, but not ... the kind of thing we should be focused on?

  2. After that, I went back to Spain, Madrid, not knowing that there was an incipient group there. I found out about this group relatively quickly afterward because I enjoyed going to entrepreneurship events and they were hosting one intro event on the Google campus. I honestly did not know whether I would stick around or not. But I think the reason I did was that Pablo Melchor was there and was very welcoming, and willing to listen. They needed someone to help organize events and I helped him more or less until covid happened, when big changes happened and we became more international (now there is one large Hispanic speaking group 🙂). I also remember talking to Jaime Sevilla (a good friend of mine) and feeling a bit defensive, because he wanted to know what I was more interested in and encouraged me to take action and organize events straightforwardly 😜

From all of this, I try to remember that doing good as an EA is socially demanding, as it requires doing things people don't usually do. For that reason, I try to give people time and space to learn. I think reading is a great way to learn more and get more engaged, and as a community, we have really good written material. On the other hand, my path to EA is very different from the people who, like Jaime, got interested in EA from a rationalist perspective. In any case, it is good to remember that at EA is very weird, and at some point you were on the other side of the conversation where you would have liked to feel included, and listened to.

comment by Will Bradshaw (willbradshaw) · 2022-01-22T09:22:05.582Z · EA(p) · GW(p)

I agree with others that this post is excellent.

comment by Greg_Colbourn · 2022-01-27T10:49:34.952Z · EA(p) · GW(p)

A less extreme version of Get In The Van is a heuristic I've often used for events, which is "stay until the very end". When I first got interested in EA and related things (LessWrong, AGI x-risk), I made a point of always staying to the very end of events to maximise what I got out of them. A formative experience in this regard was travelling across the country to go to a talk given by Eliezer Yudkowsky in Oxford in 2011 on "Friendly AI" (the term used then). There was a drinks reception after. Then some of us went to the pub. Then to a late night cafe. Then to the FHI offices, where Nick Bostrom was working late as he often does. I stayed out until about 2am from a talk that started at 6 or 7pm. Met lots of interesting people that I'd only followed / read their writing online previously (not least Eliezer).

Similarly with EA Globals - it's often good to hang out as long as you can after hours to maximise the amount of interesting discussion you have, and connections you make.

comment by Simon Mendelsohn · 2022-01-27T15:24:41.967Z · EA(p) · GW(p)

I was at this Yale EA meeting.  I didn't get in the van.  I hate vans. 

 

(But like actually I get motion sickness and really do hate vans.)

 

I never though I would be criticized for that decision 2.5 years later though.  Lol.

 

In other news, hi Thomas! I hope you're doing well.  The specifics of the horrible machines that are vans aside, I enjoyed the post :)

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comment by ThomasW (ThomasWoodside) · 2022-01-27T23:05:47.257Z · EA(p) · GW(p)

LOL, Simon, I love this. 

In the section about why people don't (and shouldn't) get in the van, I forgot to think about car sickness!

Hope you're well too, we'll have an alumni event later this semester, you should come!

comment by Simon Mendelsohn · 2022-01-27T15:28:13.163Z · EA(p) · GW(p)

Speaking of Scott Alexander, I wonder how this vibes with GETTING OUT OF THE CAR 

comment by Sofia_Fogel · 2022-01-26T19:08:34.065Z · EA(p) · GW(p)

This is a really great post ; I sincerely hope that "GITV moment" makes it into the EA lexicon. Really useful concept in a compact package with a super fun story behind it. Thanks for taking the time to write this up!

comment by MichelJusten (MJusten) · 2022-01-24T17:02:03.751Z · EA(p) · GW(p)

Really enjoyed this post– thanks for writing it!